Life is a funny thing. You’re going about it, minding your
own business and everything seems just fine, then all of a sudden you’re lying
on you get knocked down and you're asking God, “What just happened?” As soon as
you think you’ve figured it out you lose control and start spinning.
I know
life can be extremely hard at times and you have moments when you honestly feel
like you can’t take another breath, but you do. That’s what makes you amazing,
you take hold of God’s outstretched hand and he pulls you back to your feet and
you keep pushing on, one foot in front of the other. Maybe you don’t talk about
the rough things you’re going through cause you figure there’s people who have
it worse. Drop that thought, okay? God cares just as much about your bad day at work
as he does that your friend’s mom just died or that people are starving.
Another thing that I want you to realize is this. A
heartbreak is a heartbreak, no matter what caused it. You could have been
dating someone for 3 years and gone through a really bad heartbreak and be
hurting just as bad as someone who just lost their best friend, or someone who
broke up with their boyfriend after 6 months. Just because ‘It could be worse’
doesn’t mean that you can’t cry. Let it go, cry into your pillow, call your
best friend, go for a long walk or drive, listen to music and let the tears
fall without shame. Burying it won’t make it go away, trust me, it only makes
it worse.
Let me tell you something that I have and am still struggling with; I don’t
cry in front of people (or at least I do everything in my power not to), even
my best friends. I think I’m too ‘tough’ to cry and if I show pain or hurt or
sadness I’m showing weakness and I don’t do that. Granted, I don’t mind at all
if others cry in front of me, I just won’t cry in front of them. That thought
process has never helped heal my heart cause you know what, there’s a lot of
healing power in tears. It’s like music, when you hear a song and the lyrics
are describing your life to a “T” and for some reason that you can’t explain
you feel better. That’s how tears work, whether you’re like me and you wait to
cry alone to your pillow or you cry on your friend’s shoulder, let it go, let
all that pain out and let God take care of it for you.
I don't believe that God ever intended for us to deal with our pain and struggles alone, Hebrews 13:5 "I will never leave you nor forsake you." I don't know about you but that doesn't sound like God telling us to 'suck it up and hold it in', Whenever I read this verse I picture myself sitting on the ground crying, barley able to lift my head, and God comes over and kneels down next to me and takes my face in his hand, lifts my chin, looks me right in the eye, and with love and compassion in his voice tells me, "My daughter, it's going to be alright. I'm right here, and I'm not going anywhere. I will never leave you or forsake you. You are mine girl and I have a perfect plan for you. I know it's hard right now and none of this is making sense but I promise it's all going to be okay." And then he pulls me to himself and holds me while I cry and he wipes my tears when I'm done. Then he pulls me to my feet and together we continue on this crazy journey called "life", hand in hand, side by side.
It's okay to hurt, it's okay to cry, there's no shame or judgment here. God's got you, and he has no intention of letting you go.
I hope y'all are enjoying your summer so far, don't forget how awesome you are and how loved you are! God Bless you! Have a wonderful day!
